I am closer to some people now despite knowing them since grade school. I find it nice that they know I do not judge because they read the book.
Yesterday, I was on the phone with one and was blabbing about nonsense. Turns out, that was a good thing. A tree fell into a power line and caught fire. She thinks our phone call saved her and her family’s life.
Today, I talked to another friend who needed a favor and asked me to contact someone. What did I have to lose? Well, it turns out I haven’t heard back from her in hours and am worried. I know how it feels to think you lost everything and to make a mistake as to who you choose to have in your life. I didn’t give advice. I couldn’t. I kept saying I am sorry. I know how it feels, but no words heal the pain you feel during the grieving process.
True friends will always be there and check in on you. With true friends, it is as if two puzzle pieces click together. Generation X, do you remember those split heart necklaces where one said Best and the other, Friend? They need to reissue them. In real metals though, not the pewter we wore as children.
I was also deemed as being unkind today. In fact, I am one of the kindest people I know. When I see someone taking advantage of one of my true friends, I can’t remain quiet and stand back. I speak up. If you do not like what I have to say, stop using my friend for the wrong reasons. When you use people, they don’t see it and you don’t see the damage you have done to them.
We are the ones who have to painfully watch them make poor decisions over and over again. We can tell them 100 times, but they love another person more than they love themselves. Then, when it falls apart, we have to pick up the pieces and help them heal.
How dare you call me unkind? You just know I see you for what you really are. I was once that person and when you have to come to terms with yourself, I hope you have the strength.